A Whole New World

My last post was when Christopher and I just found out we were pregnant.... Since then we have moved home from California.... we have taken in Christophers younger brother and his dog... and we had our sweet little baby..... I must say Ive learned alot.....

.... Having a child is a blessing from God... One of his greatest gifts.... I must say personally I was not a touchy feely lovey dovey person in general.... I prefered a hand shake to a hug.... But this little Blessing has changed my whole outlook.... I almost feel like I now have a new body part haha like another arm or something and it hurts me for her to be away from me even in the other room for that long.... She is a part of me... She the other half of my heart..... I think having her has changed my whole families dynamic.... Believe me your relationship with your parents will completly change when you have a child and you know that they loved and love you as much as you love your new child which is not comprehendable beforehand.....


Giving that fact being a Mommy or a parent is HARD! .... You now have this precious little life that relies on you for everything... Sometimes I complain because my life revolves around pumping, feeding, changing diapers, folding miniture clothes, then repeat the process but then I think about all of the smiles and the cuddle time while shes breastfeeding and it breaks my heart to think shes going to grow up on me.... No I dont go out partying and drinking for the simple fact that it hurts me to be away for our little angel for that amount of time and well thats not the example that should be set for her plus what if I missed something!? :/.... But thats fine with me completely I would gladly trade in doing those things for the many new adventures that lie in our path....

The stress in our life hasnt changed much.... we have 3 extra mouths to feed (Noel, Jacob, and Shelbys), that being said a baby isnt cheap but a teenage boy isnt either.... especially on only Christophers salery, I havent found a job yet because all that I have found is part time positions and whats the point of having a part time position when all that money will be going to just paying for a daycare for Noel because there is nobody we trust that will watch her for decent money ugh.... :/ plus I dont really want anyone raising my child but me.... but bills need to be paid ...and I hate the thought of Christopher breaking his back and me not helping (even though my job as mommy is harder;) )... We will see what comes of that... but hey we will figure it out the Lord has a plan for us....

As far as yucky people in our life.... Ive learned to just keep my thoughts in my head about what big idiots they are and escort my child in the opposite direction much like myself.... :)

Anywho time to feed the little one and get dinner ready for tonight! <3

Stressssssssss

Within this last month many peoples true colors have shown thru.... take it it may be that Im pregnant and more sensitive to sitting down and thinking situations through but either way its true..... Yet again I think I say this over and over again I know everyone has stress.... but damn... life doesnt have to be sooooo stressful! Especially because the stress is coming from people of whom shouldnt stir up the stress to begin with.... I guess this point in our life we've decided who we are, what we believe in, and how we want to live our lives.... I guess finding out we were pregnant was like looking through clear vision.... 


................In the last few weeks we have had our inlaws bash and attack us for an stupid issue that should have been cleared up before the towns people were sent in on their un-reasoning horses with their pitchforks and filthy mouths.... we found out that there are also other parts of the family that have shown us what it means to not trust people.... on the flip side I have "friends", "friends" that have intregal parts in our life events and have been there for years, up and decide that our friendship isnt really that important after all........


......................  And here is my/our decision on these stressful people... we dont need you!


.........I knew moving to San Diego for my marriage and my husbands sake was going to have to come with sacrifice. But, thats what you do when you are married. Your sacrifice for that other person. You take the other persons side regardless you stick up for them you have their back......

.............its crazy thats have I kind of view friendship too....


......... Unknowing to everyone we have enough things to worry about rather then having to worry about your new drama every other day. We have a baby on the way.... we have jobs to worry about when we come home.... we have money to worry about... we have repairs to our house to worry about..... we shouldnt have to worry about other peoples children in our family being disrespectful and horrible... and I for one dont think I should have to worry about my friendships....

..............We are who we are.... we believe what we believe... yes and those Issues may be posted about on facebook.... if you have a problem with who I am or what I say hows about you say something instead of being coward and unfriending me just because you think I push my opinion down peoples throats.... you dont like my opinion? you have the freedom to scroll on past it :) and if you think we cant be friends because my opinions well thats fine.... I am old enough now that what I believe is what I believe.... your not going to change my opinion and honestly if i respect you enough Im gonna scroll on past your post... you can do the same..........

......... Oh and also just so you can understand  time zones.... when it is 1:00 here which is when I usally go into work it is 4:00 at home..... sooo when Im available to talk in the morning.... your at work! when you can talk after work.... Im at work! I rarely get to talk to my parents even because of this.... Im not ignoring you Im being considerate.... I can always call you after I get off work thats about 10:30 your time...... so no im not just not talking to you how about your not talking to me???? 

Im done gripeing :) Im just going to start cutting people off thats what this months life lesson has been :)

Summer Time (:

Blog blog blog :) I feel like a whirlwind has happened since our last blog entry.... April 1st we found out we were PREGO!!! AHHH This is after a fast trip home for a week in March..... We went to a 4d ultrasound experience here in San Diego on the 16th of June and found out we are having a lil girl!!! We couldnt be more excited! However, that cuts my San Diego living short :/ Ill be going home at the beginning of August if not sooner! I have to establish myself with a doctor at home because thats where lil Noel Christine will be born :)

March Update

Hello all!!!!
  I kinda skipped over Feb. It was a great month though! We had a wonderful first Valentines day! We exchanged gift and then Christopher took me to a Japanese Steakhouse here in San Diego. We also kinda have decided we are going to try to do monthly/bi-monthly husband and wife days.

 The official rules to husband/wife days are:
-The husband wife day activities are to be chosen by the day that it is.
-The only way to get out of a activity is if it has the possibility of causing bodily harm. ex:paintballing
-The opposite member that is treating the husband/wife to the day pays.
-Both members have to partake and be present in the activities.

Hahah we are weird yes I know but this is kind of something to look forward too.
Chris spend his days going to the San Diego 2012 Car exhibition, having BBQ, oh and going to the Monster Jam show.
I spent my day getting pampered. Hair Nails and a yummy dinner :)
We've already broke a few of the rules but hey were only human right! haha :)

San Diego has really grown on me..... not enough to where Id raise my kids here but it has grown on me.
I got a job at Point Loma Pet Pantry selling holistic dog food. I LOVE LOVE LOVE IT. I mean really how would it be possible for me to not like learning about pet nutrition, playing with dogs, and reading dog magazines all day??? NOT POSSIBLE! 

I still have the overwhelming feeling that we are out here for a purpose besides exposing Chris to his first Radpro Job. We are newlyweds that have been through alot more things than I believe many other newly weds. However, I dont believe if we were at home we would get the opportunity to really depend on each other like we do here. I think San Diego is showing us how to be a independent unit outside of all of our influences at home.

So far I think that San Diego has taught me alot.....I have learned that its okay that Im the crazy dog lady because Im not the only one here in San Diego. Ive learned how to better take care of my dogs by maintaining a better diet and lifestyle. (Of which I know most people back home will find me crazy.. Oh well!)  Ive learn how much I really appreciate and depend on my family and friends. (When they are not there its kinda a kick in the butt.) We've learned the importance of positive friendships and their influences. Chris is warming up to the idea that the beach isnt the absolute worst place in the world... theres always New Jersey right honey :)

and....

WARNING: If easly offended dont read on..... this is our blog and our thoughts... if you have thoughts and opinions start your own blog...... THANKS! :)

Ive learned here that sometimes people are not meant to see eye to eye. In my case those people are placed in a close postition to my family(CHRIS AND I). And I now understand that  my upbringing and my husbands upbringing are very different (and strangely enough him and I see eye to eye) but, the difference in my opinion and members of his families opinion will never be the same. However, this will not continue to stress me out or compromise who I am anymore. Christopher and I partook in communion Sunday and I took it to heart about repenting and looking up. I have so much anxiety and anger in my heart because people cant see where Im coming from. And where Im coming from is a little town called I-KNOW-YOUR-BETTER-THEN-WHAT-YOUR-DOING-NOWville And yes I too dont easily see where other peoples views are opposed to mine. AND I will pray for those people and those issues but they wont hinder me anymore and they wont hinder my relationship with my husband because they have.  Some things can be forgiven and changed or some people can be left behind unless they wake up is how Im looking at it . And I am taking this all from a quote I posted on facebook...."When you have to start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, its probably time to change the people around you." Its not necessary for people to stress me out. That results in giant arguements between us. In the end the stress brings on comments which brings on a gang mentality which brings on hatred and grudges and judging. And in the end no one even looks to the root of the source or to even me and say hey shes really upset about something and being the upset usally comes from hey she cares about that particular person and their issues. Well Im done Im beyond trying to help or care... When I have been told to not state my opinion... and I cant do so anyway with out backlash that makes me want to forget at all about the issue at hand and especially those that it deals with.... Im only one person I can only handle so much.... My husband is only one person he can only handle so much.... Yes its called life and life it tough for EVERYONE....  So were going to make it a little bit easier... by changing our philosophy of help... if you want our help then ask but you better expect to hear everything we have to say about whatever it is we are helping with..... if you dont want our help then thats fine were not going to go out of our way anymore to help...and if you know your in the wrong in a situation please think of us by keeping us out of it and changing what it is that your doing...That will prevent alot of arguing and all the other crap that follows ....

WOW that feels better everything off my shoulders.... Happy :) Now that that cat has been let out of the bag and I feel tons better I think today will be so much better once I grab a good book and hit the beach :)

Love yall!

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Christmas on Cornado Beach

   Well Christmas this year was very different.... there was none of my brother playing Enrique on his guitar and singing.... nor was there the wonderous magic trick of fitting all 1000 waltons at Pattys house.... this year was Christopher and my first Christmas married and we spent it in San Diego.... I wont say it was a bad thing because it wasnt... We spent the morning opening presents and then went to Church :)  and then we spent the day adventuring and relaxing in our new robes.... just wish we could have had family time... We cant wait til next year for Christmas in Tennessee next year!

Gallagher's Pub for New Years

   New years however, was probably the best New years Ive ever had ;) We spent the whole day at the 2012 San Diego Internation Car Show looking for me a mommy mobile :) Which was fun I liked looking at all the different cars anyways! Then that night we went out with his work buddies to a Irish Pub Called Gallaghers in Ocean Beach and partied like we hadnt in a while!!! I danced the night away and my first new years kiss for my husband! That'll be a memory to keep.....

Our First Blog

  Hi! Hello! :) Chris gave me this great Idea of making a blog of whats going on! Especially, seeing how we are so far away from home. So basically as our first blog I'll just lay down the foundation sorta say hehe!
  Christopher and I started dating in 2008 after both of us had horrible break ups with horrible people! However, I guess it was a blessing in disguise because we found each other! Chris suprised me on 9/13/09 when he took me for a bike ride down the parkway and pulled off to a beautiful spot.... and asked me to spend forever with him! :) So well of course I said yes! HAHA anywho fast forward a rough few years full of stress, familly drama, I grew a backbone and stood up for what I believe in FINALLY, college for both of us, changing living arrangements, buying a house, and Chris following a job to San Diego to November 26th, 2011.

  We had a beautiful wedding! Full of wonderful memories with our closest family and friends that supported our marriage in a very big way. The honeymoon was amazing to ;)  just saying! HEHE.....  Anywho I graduated college on December 17th, 2011 and moved to San Diego to be with my husband on December 19th! Its a crazy new adventure but we can not wait to get home to our family friends house and puppied!  

Our Family Wedding Picture